Juicy buns

I’ve had a couple of workdays in the office this month. HIGHLY EXCEPTIONAL. And thus…sorta special.

I dress up for the office. I do. When I go into work it’s pencil skirts and curvy dresses. High heels and blazers. You dress for the job you want, not the job you have. And I wanna be UP there.

HOWEVER.

This. Means. Being. Uncomfortable.

I was watching this clip of a Kirsten Bell interview and I just realized….we…we are fucked. Because not ONLY do we conform to ridiculous beauty standards…we also exemplify, honor and encourage them.

Corrective underwear…isn’t comfortable. Hell. Even bras aren’t. Ever since corona I’ve come to appreciate the freedom of breathtaking elastic figure ‘correcting’ crap and bras that bite into your sides ALL DAY LONG. And though I admit that, even to my own standards, I do look sloppy – the level of increased comfort is insane.

And I don’t wanna go back.

Because two days in the office taught me that I appreciate breathing freely more than not-having-fleshy-rolls. And that I love not having red skinflares more than I love the extra cupsize of a pushup bra.

But the thing is

My vision of beauty has been so warped. So remodelled. SO shaped and defined by current culture that the thought of leaving the house sans-correction ALSO freaks me out.

There’s no best of both worlds here. We’ve made our world so that there’s no way to be beautiful without being uncomfortable. And no way to be comfortable while looking succesful and professional.

Fml.

44 thoughts on “Juicy buns

  1. Years ago I worked in London – commuting in on the train every day – and it made me realise something. Not only were the girls that worked in the commercial centre (“The City”) impossibly pretty – which opens another can of worms about marketing, bias, sexism, and so on – but that the city girls on the train read magazines that promoted the ideals they strived for. Magazines written by women, for women, with impossible aspirational goals. I often wondered why or how they became caught up in the toxic endless loop.

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      1. It made me see magazines like Harpers, Cosmopolitan, Vogue, and so on in a completely different (and negative) light. It didn’t help when a documentary aired a couple of years marking an anniversary at Vogue magazine – showcasing the working of the journalists behind the scenes. I don’t think I’ve ever seen so many entitled, waspish, aloof, vaccuous people in one place. It was astonishing.

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  2. I completely gave up on trying to be like others years ago..lol. I feel if we are ourselves we are much happier. So a flannel shirt and leggings are often my go to, with no bra..lol. I am the only one who can live my life, so why not be happy😊

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  3. It’s a toxic loop indeed.

    I gave up on style over comfort a long time ago, and even wearing the comfiest clothes I can in the daytime I still get changed into my ‘proper comfies’ (braless in pyjamas) as soon as I’m able. Lockdown was a godsend in this department.

    I heard on a podcast recently that they make sensory clothes…they’re my next step.

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      1. I think it’s like seamless clothing made from natural fabrics without labels, nothing to bother the skin. Have you tried wearing any bamboo clothing? It’s so soft.

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  4. Thank you for sharing!.. I have found that if I am not happy with myself, I am probably not going to be happy anywhere else.. so, I going to be me even if I am different… “Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.” (Shannon L. Alder)… 🙂

    Until we meet again..
    May your troubles be less
    Your blessings be more
    And nothing but happiness
    Come through your door
    (Irish Saying)

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  5. I think we are headed in the right direction. The fashion industry is learning that people are increasingly more worried about comfort over style. There are slacks that are actually yoga pants, better bras, memory foam pumps, etc. Personally I love dressing up and looking nice, and if I can be comfortable while I do it, that’s great!

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  6. Sounds a bit conformist. Guess you have to be if your goal is to be successful in someone else’s game.
    Never lived in a city so no idea how the culture works.

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    1. Haha – very conformist, obviously. Which also makes it easy, since it saves a lot of thinking power. But just not that comfy. Nothing wrong with conforming if it gets me where I want though 😂😇

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  7. And now back to the ‘Good Enough’ post: I’ve never understood why women have to wear all this ridiculously uncomfortable stuff, including blistering backbreaking stiletto’s to be worthy, while men can just slid into the same suit-and-leather-shoes every day and be fine?! Aaaargh……!!!

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  8. My ‘advise’? Just be YOU: whether it’s the ‘sloppy’ not ‘corrected’ you, or the shaped-up version. YOU decide ‘who’ you want to be. I think, and actually ‘ hope’, that in a way Your comfortable either way. And I think most people and certainly Your friends Will respect Your choice. Beauty is on the inside, remember? 😉

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      1. It’s my way! It exists, lol. I like women in long sleeves and trousers, flat shoes, no make-up and with personality over looks lol. Basically not giving a fuck. And the rest of the time I live in space 😃

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  9. I’ll be honest, I felt similar to you. Sick of the beauty standards and how uncomfortable the “pretty things” actually are.
    I can’t remember when, but just a couple years ago, I stopped caring. I still do go out of my way to look fabulous… for me. My style is extremely eccentric and vibrant, and I stopped caring if maybe I was a bit “round in the middle” in some outfits. Could I wear an awful ‘tummy squeeze-your guts till your eyes pop out thingamajig’? Yeah, but people are going to judge me anyways…I might as well be comfortable and internally flip them off if I see a look lol
    It’s hard at first, to be honest, because of what media has told us… but it’s liberating to put my comfort over society’s standards.

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