Just a bit OCD.

There’s too many labels in this world. Fact.

We have become so adept at diagnosing the fuck out of all of our quirks, tics and odd behaviors that it is possible to place anyone on some spectrum or other, no problem whatsoever.

These days…it has become almost impossible to be completely healthy, or normal, anymore. Whatever the fuck that is supposed to mean.

We have become too smart for our own goods, I feel like. Live in a world where we have the knowledge to find any problem and work on a solution.

Yet, regardless of this capacity, we have kept the taboo around each and every one of these labels very much alive. We are normalising a diagnosis culture – but are subsequently keeping all of our diagnoses in the ‘dark and bad’ corner, unchanged. We’re improving the one, yet refusing to become more open to all of the things we discover at the same time. Moving forward on one level while stubbornly staying stuck in the Middle Ages on another.

Labels like mental disease or illness or disorder and the people carrying them are still stigmatised. Condemned. Disapproved. Judged and hated. Yet more and more people see them applied to them, willingly or not, with all of the consequences of being labeled. And that? That’s a bad thing, if you ask me.

We’re creating a world where we keep discovering more and more about all of the different ways people can tick and function – but we’re making that same world unsafe for ticking in a certain way by making every ‘odd’ way to tick a taboo. A bad thing Even though, these days, we’re pretty well aware of the fact that no one ticks the same.

I’ve always been very strongminded about how unnecessary this incessant labelling CAN be.

Obviously, I understand that there’s instances, cases, people whose worlds can be made infinitely better by finally having a word for what’s ailing them and access to the medicines to make life bearable. Or at least a possible solution for what’s making them miserable. I do.

But for every important diagnosis. For every person ‘saved’ from themselves – there’s also one who did not need that diagnosis. Who is marked by something that does not necessarily improve their life. Or who is labeled, without needing to be changed. Without WANTING to be changed.

Having a word for your behaviors and a label to match way too often becomes a shield. A reason to do things, or not to do things. An excuse to justify any and all acts that might not fit the mold without any intention or option for betterment. Which does not make a person, or the world around them, any better.

Those labels are out there. Free to use for any individual, while most of them have not the slightest clou about what the disorders they so jokingly throw around really entail.

Like this girl in Glee who just has a really horrible personality. Who speaks her mind too plainly, directly and honestly (and never has anything nice to say) only to follow up a blatant insult with ‘but I get to say that. I have Aspergers. Self diagnosed‘. Using and abusing a label that she could easily have done without. And has no ‘right’ to. Only to ensure that she can live her life in the way she pleases without any intent for ‘getting better’.

Or the people who cut ambition out of their lives because they have something or other. ‘I can’t do this, because I have….’ or ‘I will never succeed at…because I am…’. Who start blaming the world for being against them, without being willing to put up the same fight that others do, because they have their label to hide behind.

I am guilty of this disregard for labels myself too, quite often. I know this. And regardless of how insensitive I know it can be regarded, it’s something I’ve grown up with. Joking about labels. Something that is normalised in our current culture almost as much as our right of speech, the length of our toes and excessive sensitivity on all cancel-topics.

I contribute a lot of my behaviors to ‘my OCD’ without thinking twice. Throw in a quip about my Tourettes when I stub my toe and launch a tirade of swearwords into nothingness. Jokingly comment on needing a bit more Anorexia when the scales are not turning up in my favor and ‘innocently’ comment on my becoming severerely depressed when Netflix keeps removing all of my favorite movies.

I do these things, often without thinking twice. Because even though I wasn’t diagnosed with any of them, there’s the simple fact that I DO carry around some quirks that fit into these labels. Not enough for any of them to hold true, but I (like everyone else) can recognise parts of myself in each of these taboo areas. We all are a little bit of every label that we’ve invented. We all are a bit OCD. And a bit autistic. A bit of a problem-eater or drinker and a bit depressed.

But in most cases…I think we would’ve been better off just thinking that that’s just our particular brand of crazy. Without having a name for each little ‘weird’ part of our personality. Without being labeled for it. Blissfully unaware.

Plus. Honestly. If I have a discussion with a friend that plays Blockudoku and just RANDOMLY picks levels like in this picture instead of playing them in order as she damn well should…why am I suddenly the crazy OCD person, instead of her? Maniac.

Again. That was a joke. Highly inappropriate, I know. It’s because I’m –insert label-.

Or just really insensitive.

43 thoughts on “Just a bit OCD.

  1. This is so true and to the point! We are all too happy putting ourselves in a neatly labeled box and living inside it all our lives! A behavioral handicap should be overcome to the best of our ability, not nurtured.

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    1. It’s an extention of our trice mentality as humans we always want to belong to a group. So when someone doesn’t have a label of his own they feel left out. That’s why you hear people sprinkling these labels in their conversations like salt on food.

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  2. The more labels we create, the greater we alienate ourselves from others… totally the opposite of Unity Consciousness, from we which originated, I opine.. but COVID has awakened pockets of people around the world.. hope more will remember our origin..that we are One. ✌🏻💕✌🏻

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  3. We all tick slightly differently and none of us fits neatly into a single box. Trying to find a label for every quirk — and then insisting that people conform fully to their labels — can do far more harm than good.

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  4. I don’t mind having the label of Schizoaffective or Bipolar, for example. They are real illnesses, even if mental. I doubt I would be on necessary medication, if not for a label like that. Part of my illness is that I can easily go into denial about it and go off my medication, every now and then, so it’s tempting for me to say “screw labels”, but I spend a lot of time trying not to. On the other hand, it bothers me when people give themselves labels like Bipolar (meaning they’re simply moody) or OCD (just because they like things neat) when they don’t have the actual illness.

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  5. “Obviously, I understand that there’s instances, cases, people whose worlds can be made infinitely better by finally having a word for what’s ailing them and access to the medicines to make life bearable. Or at least a possible solution for what’s making them miserable. I do.”

    This is a great paragraph, because it’s so important to make these distinctions and to not take one extreme position or the other.

    “We all are a little bit of every label that we’ve invented. We all are a bit OCD. And a bit autistic”

    And I completely agree with this, and it’s a subtle conclusion to arrive at.

    I really appreciate your open-minded discussion about labels because I notice people making absolute statements a lot (but not ALL the time), especially about emotive things like this.

    Totally totally agree on the contradiction between increasing labels and labelling but destigmatisation not keeping up with it— especially when it comes to things like perceived qualification for certain jobs. E.g. a person with diagnosed ADHD may be deemed unfit to be a firefighter or something, when actually it’s precisely people with those traits who need to and do end up doing those jobs 😆.

    One of my points on this is that you should identify with any labels by choice— rather than ever feel like you must have a label because somebody else has given it to you. I think there’s a big ethical discussion around giving labels to children, because the effects can be huge and lasting. And if you do identify with a label, nobody can ever tell you that you don’t “fit” it. Because if associating with ‘autistic’ people or if learning about autism helps you, or if you use that label to help other people to understand you— then by definition that really makes you autistic, regardless of anybody else’s opinion. And once a label becomes unuseful to you, then by all means drop it :).

    There’s so much overlap between a lot of the labels that it seems really important to take them as a guide, and definitely not as exclusive things.

    Anyway this is such a long discussion to have, I could discuss it all day and it’s so hard to do it justice in text 😆.

    Oh btw LOL— your friend probably has ADHD and enjoys the novelty and thrill of just randomly choosing 🤣. I can see both sides. Like I used to worry about setting volume levels to even numbers, but now I enjoy setting them to prime numbers because I get more of a thrill out of being subversive and pranking people 🤣🤣.

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    1. Damn good comment (even though it’s lengthy) – and so right. Such a difference in getting stamped with a label and adopting one as yours.

      Ps. That insight on my friend – golden!
      I could really not find a reason why they would. This makes total sense!

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      1. Thank you for reading it all!! Sorry, agree it was long, wasn’t meant to be but then it became hard to remove anything as I really believed in all the points 😆.

        “I could really not find a reason why they would.”

        This is funny, haha 😄. Glad I managed to help!

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  7. At my age, I’ve collected so many labels I don’t really care. Some accurate, some not. Some I’m proud to have and some not. Some I’ve overcome and some I’m still working on. Some I have yet to acquire like retired. Some I have yet to develop like becoming an artist. Some labels are a point in time, not something to be worn a lifetime. Wisdom has taught me to learn from labels but also to just be myself and be happy because it isn’t a label that’s important, it’s what you do today.

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  8. I often diagnose the fuck out of things –

    generally when I am smoking a big curvy pipe (which I smoke when in a cleverly diagnostic mode).

    “There’s way too much fuck in that!” I say cleverly, before diagnosing all the excess fuck out of it.

    Actually, I just made that up.

    But yeah… it would be cool if we could find a way to be ourselves without having to be categorised for it, using categories that generally seem to make it harder for us to speak who we really are.

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  9. Except we’re not all a little OCD, a little autistic, or a little depressed, and to suggest that we are shows a lack of understanding of what those conditions actually involve. For example, the popular notion of “a little OCD” has very little to do with actual OCD. The idea that being disappointed that one’s favourite whatever is being cancelled has anything to do with a major depressive episode is totally inaccurate. That’s not to say that disappointment isn’t valid, but it’s not the same thing as mental illness. People may casually label themselves or others with diagnostic labels they don’t actually understand, but that doesn’t make that type of labelling accurate.

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  10. I definitely agree that labels can get overused and overhyped. Not to mention meds for hyperactivity are overprescribed. I will say this though, when I am seriously sick, I do get obsessive because I am so aware of my body. My mother calls it OCD, and I am actually okay with her using that term in those circumstances, because once I start obsessing in those circumstances, it is super hard for me to stop

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  11. We label everything to separate it from ourselves. Like you said about mental illnesses, giving them a name doesn’t mean a blind bit of difference to the mind and body. What it does is take the ‘I’ out of experience and creates what I think is a separation anxiety. By separation anxiety, it is simply a mental abandonment of being at one with yourself. As you know full well you can’t control it, no amount of anxiety will have any effect on the outcome.

    Labels that are used in advertising.
    We are constantly having our lives interrupted by advertisements we didn’t ask for. We are made to feel inferior and poked fun out from the sides of buses, by interruption of the programmes we wanted to watch on our TVs, in magazines we read. Men wearing designer underwear with another man’s name on it? It’s common place for a pair of Calvin Klein’s in be in the drawers of men across the world. But it’s also a bit odd if you think about it.

    You can even go back to day beginning of labelling. The creation of countries and borders. The Earth wasn’t made up of countries before we had our say

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  12. This is such a thought-provoking post and it’s brilliant how you articulated it. I really appreciate your insight. I do worry alot about labels because I feel it dehumanizes people and can lead to some false stereotypes that would be unfair to apply to everyone with that label. I also worry that people can use labels to handicap themselves and as excuses from reaching their potential. So it’s a very slippery slope. I do feel it is valuable when seeking specific treatments. But outside of treatments, maybe labels are unnecessary.

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  13. “We have become too smart for our own good.” I have felt this for a long while. We’re constantly diagnosing, judging; particularly easy when it’s directed away from ourselves. And we’re so often just wrong, so clueless to the nuances that exist in everything. We’ve become so smart we’re just stupid. I feel like. 😊

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  14. OMG! You can do that, play the squares out of order??? I never even thought of trying. Since we’re staying away from diagnostic labels, I’ll blame my need for order on astrology. I’m a Virgo 🙂

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  15. I agree. Labels are sometimes even just made up: let’s think of a number of symptoms, group them and give a label. Not even being able to ‘prove’ what it is or what can be done about it. Wrap it up and done.
    But there is also an upside, when you feel condemned because of your ‘symptoms’. It might seem great to be unique, but… Finding out there is a whole bunch of people with exactly the same quirks can then be soothing. And sometimes others can advise. However, since the majority of people don’t know what a certain label exactly means, it’s more of a nonsensical burden anyway.
    Interesting subject, always keeping me busy.

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  16. i totally agree ! by labeling ourselves we’re shutting ourselves off from the rest of society, ‘we should instead focus on trying to fix the problem!’ i never thought of it like that !! ive always thought that with my panic attacks that i wouldn’t really be able to do anything about it and that it would just stay as a label, but at the same time it’s really quite annoying whenever people are like ‘oh my anxiety’s acting up’ you don’t actually have the illness, please shut up !!! sorry for the rant at the end haha and wonderful post 😁!

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