When it comes to being an attentive hostess, I’ve never been the most talented of household-goddesses. My idea of being a good host mainly hinges on the presence of a LOT of everything in the house. The service doesn’t really come included.
So if you end up on my couch – you best get comfortable enough to dive into my fridge and cupboards asap, at a risk of otherwise becoming parched or hungry. Mi casa es su casa as soon as you pass the treshold. Everything is there, I’m just not that great at actually getting it to ya. Sawwy.
So this weekend I had guests. Two of them! Actual living breathing human guests!
So. Much. Yay!
(You know lockdown is in full swing when even the introverts start jumping at the chance of meeting up with folk).
And one of these guests always is very confronting for my ‘I have everything!’ persona in hostess-land. Because this fella drinks coffee. Something that I don’t. So I don’t have a coffeemaker. I had seven sorts of drinks. Three different types of beer. ALL of the snacks…but obviously no coffee. Yikes!
This – throughout my life – has always been treated as a humongous crime. Even if you’re not a coffee-drinker…society somehow still EXPECTS you to be able to provide guests with coffee if they so please. It’s a MUST. No negotiations! Which I never understood. Honestly. Sure, if someone offers ya coffee, go for it. If you ask for coffee and they don’t have it in the house, how is it that that always ends up like I told them I don’t actually breathe oxygen either?
‘No coffee? Really? Oh…ehh….then I’ll have….xxx….
I don’t know anyone without a coffeemaker. That’s so….’
But hey. I don’t play soccer. So there’s no soccer-ball in my yard (even though that’s a staple in many households). I don’t like loofahs, so there’s none in my house even though I have a tub that I practically live in. I don’t have a rice-cooker because I barely cook rice, and if I do, it’s no trouble to just boil the water anyway. So WHY would not having the apparatus’ for making beverages I don’t myself consume be a strange thing?
Now – this particular guest is the fucking awesome variety – so he brought his own espresso (can you imagine being this addicted to a drink? :O). Fucking lovely!
But since I have another guest coming over later today (damn, I’m not really doing too well on the isolation thing this week) I am already slightly pondering the ‘what if’ of him wanting coffee. Dammit.
Maybe I SHOULD get one of them cupclickcoffeethings. Just for those ‘rare’ occassions.
Wait. Some of them also make hot cocoa right? This might be a smart move indeed.
Hmmmz… Time to put a travel coffee maker in my bag then 🤣
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Smart move!
I have some…eh…oploskoffie but that’s not ideal xD
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Maybe just buy some instant coffee- coffee makers are expensive!
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My idea of perfect guests!!!❤️
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What if someone very ashamed comes to visit? He will starve to death! Hahahaha After all, if they know you and know that you don’t buy coffee, let them bring it themselves and let them make homemade coffee, without a machine. 😛
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Haha. Yes! Some of them make hot cocoa. ☺️
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WHHHHHAAAAATTTT?!?!?!?
No…
Coffee?
😦
sadfrog
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As an avid coffee drinker myself I always appreciate it when at someone’s home they offer me coffee. That said I dont make them responsible for my coffee addiction, if they dont have coffee I manage as best I can. The problem is, when you welcome coffee into your life it has an alarming probability of remaining a fixture for a long, long time. Good luck on your coffee free journey.
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Haha – I do drink it when in the office…
Although the cappucinos with twoacks of sugars don’t really count as coffee, I’m assuming 🤣🤭
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For years I didn’t have a coffee maker until I got one of those cupclickcoffeethings (a Tassimo, specifically). Until then, my parents would bring their coffee maker with them anytime they came to visit.
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Smart parents!!
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The tiny coffee makers (that’d end like 4 cups, enough for 2 people to have a mug) are pretty cheap, and they’re super small. It may be an option.
But also, yeah, I’m with you. If you don’t do coffee, you absolutely shouldn’t feel obligated to have it on hand (despite the suggestion above). Just like the soccer ball. At the end of they day, they’re in YOUR house and stepping into YOUR world. Being a good host is just being warm, not providing negligible things like coffee.
Toilet paper, on the other hand… now that’d just be sad.
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Ghehe – so far I’ve always been good in the toiletpaper department so…yay! 🤭👌
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(1) “(You know lockdown is in full swing when even the introverts start jumping at the chance of meeting up with folk).”
YES! This… I’m an introvert, but I’m a social introvert. I love hanging out with big groups of people, but only once a month or so, twice at the absolute most. I used to throw awesome (or should I say “rad”) retro gaming parties and game nights at my house before COVID, but only about 3-4 times a year. But this is what I miss the most about these times. Even though it was hectic to have so many people in the house, and tiring to clean up after them, it was worth it. 😦
(2) Finally, someone else who understands what it’s like not to like coffee! As I’ve written many times in my blog, having been a university student in the 90s, I felt like my dislike of coffee stunted my social life at a time when it was all the rage to hang out at the coffee shop (the TV show “Friends,” for example, although I never got into that show for a variety of reasons).
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I have a kettle.
Is that not enough?
I even have a jar of coffee on hand. Ok, so it instant and doesn’t come with special filter thingies or wotsits but…
Kettle.
Jar of coffee.
It’s not a staggering choice, I know… but if I was a standard issue hotel, a kettle and some sachets of coffee and a couple of tea bags would be the epitome of choice.
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I dunno…I do feel that instant coffee in jars is just really…frowned upon…by the coffeaddicted purists 🤣
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Learning the terminology of coffee dudes is a minefield. I was at an airport a few years ago, looking to get a coffee to fill in some time between connecting flights, so I looked at the range of thingy-wotsit-chinos and tried to figure which of these equated to a big standard coffee I would recognise.
I ordered an espresso – erroneously thinking it was similar to “express”, as in fast, simple, no fuss, no special frothy whatever. To give myself an excuse to chill awhile at the coffee bar, I ordered a large one, naturally expecting a large cup to appear.
I was shocked to receive a thimble of what tasted like coffee to fuel space rockets with.
First time I was ambushed by a drink. I now know an espresso from a cappuccino from a latte from a frappalappadingdong. I can sit in a coffee bar without being surprised by cup sizes. Somehow, there’s no adventure anymore.
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Ever tried a REAL Turkish coffee? Or Kopi Tubruk?
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Don’t worry I will make tea
😊
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Much better choice!
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Hosting can be a difficult art, I say let the guest beware! C
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Haha – they should definitely beware of overfeeding potential at least with everything I bring into the house 🤣🤭
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I don’t have any consumables in my place that I don’t consume myself. When I think about what someone might want and my not having it, I think about that person’s disappointment but not my obligation to provide it. But then I don’t expect to have something somewhere else if it’s not generally kept or made there.
I might complicate the potential social problem in that while I have a coffeemaker, it isn’t a Keurig. So I end up a coffee criminal, anyway.
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Why?
Is Keurig the bestestest around or summin? 🤣😱
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Bestestest to some, well, many (not me).
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LOL! You’re right, people expect coffee whether you drink it or not. Before I became a latte lover myself, I kept single serving coffee bags around. Coffee packaged like tea. Folgers calls them coffee singles. Way less expensive than buying a coffee machine 🙂
Folgers Coffee Singles
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That is actually a promising suggestion!
I’ll see if I can find something like that round here 😱👌
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Coffee is coffee! Period. I’m not an addict though. As long as you have other options it should not be a big deal for your guests. Have a good time Zoe❣️
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Haha – it shouldn’t be a big deal, indeed…
But the shocked responses always make it feel like it is regardless 🤔🤭
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I have an expensive-ass coffee machine, and end up drinking instant coffee. Just have some nice instant coffee in the cupboard, and tell them to suck it up if it’s not good enough for them 🙂
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But…how does that work in your brain 🤣
Why not use the machine if you DO have it
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Coffee Tea
Please Plea
How ‘Bout
Cream
Stirring Dreams🏝
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Sometimes I wonder why society is unraveling, then I read about seemingly decent, self respecting individual who fail to offer coffee to their guests and it all makes sense.
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I’d totally apologise for my horrendous behaviour…
But I’m pretty sure I’d be lying 🔥😈😈
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If we were dealing with an issue that wasn’t so serious, like nuclear proliferation or climate change, I would admire your ability to sit back and watch the world burn around you.
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Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.
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I have a stove-top coffee maker and I have taken it with me when visiting in-laws.I might be a little bit addicted myself.
But if you don’t drink coffee yourself, you’re probably better off just getting a jar of instant. There’s no point in spending a fortune on something you’ll never use for yourself.
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But people always heckle instant coffee like it’s a sin to even acknowledge its existence 🤭🤣
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Of course it’s a sin. But if you don’t drink the stuff yourself, who cares? 😉
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To be fair, the cup things are also a sin.
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If I know they are coming, I buy instant.
But if they turn up on the fly, then that’s their risk!
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‘Visit at your own risk’…
I need that as a welcome mat 🤔🤣
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Some of them do make hot chocolate, so it could be a bonus but I’m also not a tea drinker and I don’t see why others that visit can’t do without for their stay 😀
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Haha – agreed!
But I still always have at least 5 different kinds of tea in the house, just in case 🤣
It’s easier than coffee 🤭
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Yeah especially these days where they fart about with it so much 🤣
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I have been reading this blog for a while now and have seem some shocking posts, but this‽‽‽ * heavy sigh *
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😂 I’m a coffee snob and coffee addict. Oploskoffie is unacceptable to me. So is Senseo and most filter koffie. Honestly if I’d visit you, I’d ask for tea (or actually get it myself, lol 😂) or one of those beers perhaps. Btw I pretty much always carry my thermos bottle with herbal infusion or tea with me and if I’m really in need of (more) coffee, I’d carry my own coffee thermos with me as well, instead of relying on you. Unless I’d know you’re a coffee snob/addict too 😉
BTW I do not have a coffee machine at home either. So, you should def not get any to accommodate your guests! I cook Turkish coffee at home (in a djezva, a special Turkish coffee pan, but I’ve made it in a regular steelpan as well), OR Indonesian koffie tubruk. No machines needed!
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I drink instant. No machines or apparatus required. However a lot of coffee drinkers regard this as the equivalent of offering them vinegar for wine.
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Coffee is life!! How dare you not have any coffee LOL
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If it’s important enough for you to have the option on hand for guests, you could get an inexpensive coffee pour over kit. It’s a plastic piece that goes over the mug, just add a filter and ground coffee and then pour over boiling water.
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That’s a good option too, actually!
Luckily – I’ve since scratched off most of the coffeedrinking guests with all the lockdowns and such. I guess corona fixed my coffee issues 🤭
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