Personal Blogging – To be recognisable or to be unique?

From a young age we’re all taught that we’re special little snowflakes.

Those who are loved by their parents are the speciallest of special to them – those who aren’t learn that they stand out for other reasons. And adapt. And those who don’t pay attention are still slapped around with a sense of ‘being’ at some point. We all learn that we’re our own person, one way or another. There’s no escaping that knowledge.

Uniqueness, in all its forms, is quickly prompted and imprinted on our souls as one of the greater goods. Being yourself, whoever that may be, in all its colorful appearances, a lifegoal-to-be-achieved. And some go far on their journey to be (or become) unique.

I applaud that.

Yet, simultaneously, the world seems to force us into the strict corset of sameness through the same peers that want us to be ourselves. Ourselves, but befitting the current (increasingly broad) mold none the less. Still…uniqueness, when it (actually) shines through and puts you apart is crushed. It’s ok to be unique within the acceptable borders. It’s not ok to be different. An important distinction.

A struggle for some. A fight for others. An impossibility for a few.
Never for me, luckily.

Let me clarify.
When it comes to ‘the world‘ – I don’t feel that my kind of uniqueness fits with the mold. It is a ‘differentness’ on many levels (is that weird to say about yourself).

But luckily – I learned how to fit it regardless. Masking, a term most commonly used when speaking in the autistic spectrums (not that I have any diagnose, label or experience in that field whatsoever) – is a very valuable skill. Looking at the world around you, seeing the patterns (and being boggled by them) but shaping yourself after them (putting on a mask) and adopting them as your own can be invaluable. Although doing so always kind of feels like ‘work‘. It’s a useful skill though, regardless of the energy it costs to apply. And one, I think, you also benefit of as a reader of this blog.

I’m often told that what I write makes the normal seem special. That I shine a different light on simple concepts to make them stand out. That what I write is so very recognisable to many, without them knowing it was there to be recognised. And they are all lovely compliments.

It’s a skill born from necessity, that way of looking at the world. When you learn, from a young age, to ‘try’ and see things the way ‘other people‘ might see them, you learn to start small. Take tiny building blocks and stack them together into a bigger picture of normalcy. And then fit yourself into that picture. Or at least – that’s how it has always felt to me.

When I blog it gives me a sort of freedom that I don’t generally get. It allows me to make those connections from simple to deep and to follow trains of thought that I usually keep on the back tracks (for being unacceptable) without being judged for it. Hell, I might be praised for it even.

I can jump from one topic to the next without explaining the road taken and my words can make the sense I think they need to without having to be defended. They can be recognisable if they are, or unique if they aren’t, but in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter.

My space, my words, my ramblings. I don’t have to fit a mold when I blog, or try to (not) be unique.

I can just be unapologetically me.

And that. That is the number one reason why I keep a personal blog – regardless of all the further options, perks, benefits and consequences. Freedom to be. Whatever.

So hey. Thank you for reading me. Really.

Ps.
Even if you’re lurking. Even if you’re just reading along. Even if you click these links just because the Facebook stories with the blue ‘unwatched’ rings annoy you?
I see you! I welcome you! I know you!
(Not in a ‘scary-hiding-in-the-bushes kinda way)
And you’re appreciated! Regardless of your judgments. Thank you!

PPS.
Wanna read more about the ins and outs and hows and whys of personal blogging round here? Click on, brave warrior, click on!

* Personal blogging – Risky Business
* Personal blogging – Dirty little secret
* Personal blogging – To be recognisable or to be unique?
* Personal blogging – Out for the count

* Personal blogging – Listless
* Personal blogging – The science of stars

48 thoughts on “Personal Blogging – To be recognisable or to be unique?

  1. I enjoyed this look at your inner motivations, showing a different side of yourself. And I’m grateful for your honesty. I wish I could write something more eloquent than that, but my brain is having one of those days where it’s refusing to work properly. Keep being you. πŸ™‚

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  2. It was a small explosion, bit you blew my mind with the complexity of this post. (This is my first read by the way) I was never taught about masking and it would have benefited me well. An examinination of myself upon reflection of your words reveals that I likely have been blogging along in real life being a real special “snowflake.” Wow. This one was deep and well articulated! 🀠πŸ”₯

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    1. Why thank you!
      I wonder what kind of impression a blog like mine makes if this is your first read. Gets me thinking on how every single blog post might determine someone’s view. And probably explains why some days followers might pile in when other days they stray…..

      Damn. Now you’ve gone and caused an explosion in my brain as well.
      Thanks!

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  3. Blogging gives us all freedom to escape in the world where we wanna be and create a beautiful world for ourselves…It’s like a cozy perfect world where you are given the power to say things you felt through heart and others with same experience can share the space , if not they still support you…
    great post (y)

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  4. “I’m often told that what I write makes the normal seem special. That I shine a different light on simple concepts to make them stand out. That what I write is so very recognisable to many, without them knowing it was there to be recognised.”

    That’s lovely. You should get those compliments phrased πŸ˜‰

    Keep being you πŸ™‚

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  5. I was talking to a friend today about taking my uniqueness on the road.
    It came up in a chat a while back and, since then, everyone I thought would try to talk me down from the idea has thoroughly endorsed it. 😳
    That probably sounds way too random. I should really reconsider blogging stuff after strange conversations in the woods.

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  6. As writers, we’re often torn in between. In some ways, we still need to write for others, because it’s the readers who will be experiencing our work. But having the choice to pick the topic to write about really is an awesome feeling. Wishing you a great journey in writing no matter where you are!

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  7. It is true – blogging gives us the ability to be ourselves to the rest of the world without worrying about judgment. In seven years of blogging, I have enjoyed the life and spirit of everyone that I connect with. Keep blogging, you have a great way with speaking from your uniqueness.

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  8. Exactly, that’s personal blogging, it’s yours, and yours alone. And I’m enjoying reading it. 😁
    (Wow. Your blog audience is growing so fast, I wonder if it’s any use commenting anymore…)

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  9. I get this! Awesome. I used to blog as a teen, and people would make the same comments. I have also wondered at times if I might be autistic based on how odd I seem to be. I never have naturally fit in with any one crowd. It’s been a strange existence from my point of view. But I get this. I only quit writing because my ex husband [questionably abusive, definitely toxic relationship] told me that my words were worthless.

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  10. I absolutely loved this! I love when other people see the beauty in the traditionally mundane things of the world. The little things and uniqueness in life should always be celebrated.

    I’ve also launched a small blog of my own. I’d love if you’d check out a post and let me know what you think.

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  11. Hi. Glad you feel ‘free.’ (Let’s not discuss whether there is free will, argh..). But l wonder about this whole ‘uniqueness’ thing. I think I read that babies have no self-awareness. Every thing we accustom ourselves to (around us) come to define us. It is almost (if not downright so) a stroke of luck if you grew up in a house with books, that then make you a bookworm. Or if your neighbor is an artist and you are drawn to art when young. Where do we draw the line between ‘you’ and ‘not-you’?

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